Finding Your Zen: Yoga for Nonbinary People—Breaking the Mold and Embracing Authenticity

Ever step into a yoga studio and imagine it as a sea of tanned, toned women in sports bras and Lululemon leggings? Maybe their hair is perfectly tied up, radiating effortless, feminine grace. This is the stereotypical Western yoga scene that often comes to mind. But what if you don’t quite fit that mold? What if you’re androgynous, queer, and rocking a baggy shirt with shorts? Stepping into such a space, where you might not look like everyone else, can feel like walking into a lion’s den of self-doubt. The discomfort of having something like hairy legs on display as someone who was AFAB can leave you feeling like you don't belong.

I’ve been there. I even tried to conform to the yoga norm, donning sports bras and leggings in front of the mirror, only to realise it wasn’t me. Spoiler alert: It felt utterly uncomfortable and inauthentic. So, here’s the lowdown on finding your groove in a yoga studio as a nonbinary person:

Not All Spaces Are Inclusive—But That’s Okay! Let’s be real: not every yoga studio feels like a welcoming haven. Some spaces may not immediately seem inclusive, and that can be tough. But remember, this is your journey. Stepping out as your authentic self might feel like an uphill battle at first, but it’s worth it. Hunt around for the right studio—some are more attuned to diverse demographics and may better suit your needs.

Be Yourself—It Gets Easier Here’s the secret: once you take that first brave step and be yourself, it gets easier. Everyone is usually too engrossed in their own practice to focus on you. In the nicest way, you are a background character in everyone else's life! Let this comfort swallow you and go ahead—rock those baggy clothes and embrace your true self. It’s your practice, after all.

Yoga Off the Mat: Non-Judgment and Self-Compassion Yoga isn’t just about poses; it’s a practice of self-compassion and non-judgment. Take these principles off the mat. Affirmations and a sprinkle of self-love can help soothe those insecurities and make you feel more at home.

Dress for Comfort, Not Conformity You don’t have to fit into a cookie-cutter yoga look. It’s 2024 and most places embrace inclusivity, so wear what makes you feel good. If that’s a pair of comfy shorts and a loose tee, go for it. Fashion is personal, and yoga attire should be too.

You’re Not Alone Trust me, you’re not the only one who’s ever felt this way. Many nonbinary and androgynous individuals grapple with expressing themselves authentically in various spaces. It’s natural to fear judgment from others, naturally we want to fit in. Wanting to fit in is a primal urge — we don't want to be kicked out of the tribe! But remember— this fear, now, in this context is just an unhelpful emotion. On the other side of that fear is freedom.

Inspire Others by Being You By showing up as your true self, you’re paving the way for others. Whether you’re a young person trying to find your identity or someone who’s been hiding in the shadows, your presence can be a beacon of hope. You’re not just practicing yoga; you’re helping others feel comfortable in their own skin too.

The Joy of Authentic Expression I’ve found so much joy in witnessing people who confidently dress in ways that break the mold. It’s not just inspiring; it’s a reminder that we’re all in this together. As my partner once said (no clue where she got it from), “By not being yourself, you’re robbing others of the experience of you.” Essentially, you never know who you’re impacting, inspiring, and encouraging.

At its core, yoga isn’t just about mastering poses; it’s about revealing the Self within. So embrace your unique expression and remember: the mat is your space to shine, just as you are.

Embracing the Divine Balance: Nonbinary Identity and Gender Harmony in Yoga and Spiritual History

Yoga, at its heart, is about the union of masculine and feminine energies, finding balance, and embracing them in their entirety. A key deity in Hinduism—the foundation of traditional and modern yoga—is Ardhanarishvara. This form of Lord Shiva combined with Goddess Parvati is depicted as half male and half female, symbolising the harmony and fluidity of gender. Remembering Ardhanarishvara can be a beautiful reminder that your nonbinary identity is as divine and complete as any other. Picture each asana as a dance between energies, reflecting the dynamic nature of your own self. This vibrant symbolism can transform every stretch and pose into a joyful exploration of self, celebrating that your expression is as important and beautiful as any other.

Lord Krishna, the central figure in the Bhagavad Gita—one of the most sacred yoga texts in history —is also a harmonious blend of both masculine and feminine energies. He is the embodiment of divine love, wisdom, and playful creativity. He is celebrated for His androgyny and is a renowned esoteric symbol of universal consciousness.

There are countless beautiful images and stories of Krishna’s experience of all energies out there. Meditating on these androgynous images of Krishna, Ardhanarishvara, and other gender-diverse deities can help foster a deep sense of love and acceptance within yourself. Pondering these images and concepts might support other nonbinary yogis in embracing their unique identities, reinforcing the idea that the divine transcends all gender binaries.

Transgender worship throughout spiritual history shows that gender diversity is not just valid—it’s something to celebrate! Across different cultures, nonbinary and transgender identities have been honoured as sacred, magical, and full of wisdom. Embracing this vibrant history can help nonbinary people feel seen, loved, and part of a beautiful, ancient tradition that says, “You are exactly who you’re meant to be, and that’s awesome!”